What’s wrong with me or what’s right with me?

Ever ask yourself “what’s wrong with me?” You look at your weaknesses first instead of your strengths. Unfortunately, that’s a common practice in our society. But–newsflash–people aren’t perfect! So why focus on imperfections? Why not focus on what’s right with us instead of what’s wrong with us. I’ve tried this recently and it’s pretty refreshing to look at what I’m doing well, what I’m pretty good at, and what I can make happen because of natural abilities. When I think of others this way it helps my whole outlook on life improve.

Sure, we have weaknesses and we still need to work on those. But we’re given strengths, too. They should be a bigger focus.

“Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure…as we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson

Ask yourself “what’s right with me” and watch your world change.


Get a good tune in your head.

As cheesy as this may sound, when you have a good tune in your head, it’s a lot harder to be in a bad mood. I literally always have a song in my head. I could wake up in the middle of the night and have a song in my head. As annoying as it might be to some, that’s how I’m wired. Sometimes when I have an annoying song in my head I ask people at work if they have a song in their head. Two things can happen.

1. You get a better song in your head.
2. You get a chance to have a good conversation with a coworker about what music or lack of music they have in their life.

This has lead to a lot of fun conversations with many people over the years. And at home, it’s become such a way of life that around the dinner table with the family someone usually says “what song” and everyone starts to spout off what they’ve got going on in their mental jukebox, or if its off for the moment. It always leads to some kind of interesting conversation. Give it a try with your family or coworkers when there is nothing to talk about and see what happens.

If you say you can’t, you won’t.

How often do we limit ourselves? How much do we tell ourselves “I can’t do that”? Why do we do that? Are we afraid of responsibility, success, or failure? Ok, so we could look at it two ways. If we’re talking about things we shouldn’t be doing in the first place, ie giving in to addictive behavior, poor judgment, etc. then sure, you say you can’t do that and walk away. But how many times do we have something in front of us that looks good but challenging and almost automatically tell ourselves we can’t do it. I see this with kids fairly often, but I’ve also seen adults do the very same thing. I’ve caught myself a few times since realizing this and had to think twice. We will all do it from time to time, but if we realize it we can change our course. I’m now in a Master’s program. For a few years I thought “I can’t do it, my life is too busy, my kids are too old. There’s no way I could go back to school.” Essentially I told myself “I can’t do it”. Well, not wanting to be a hypocritical father, I looked deeper into myself and eventually took the plunge. I couldn’t be happier that I did. What’s even better is that I’ve realized if I can do this, then what else can I do. It’s a great feeling. This doesn’t mean that it will all be easy, but the end result will gaining more confidence and, with any luck and blessings, more success in life.