But there’s nothing there to stop me!

If you want to succeed, don’t be afraid to take some spills once in a while. It’s the only way you’ll learn and the only way you’ll find success.

The fear of succes is a very real thing and a young man opened my eyes to this a few weeks ago. It was his first ski trip and I got to help him learn how. He and I worked together for over an hour to get him down the bunny hill. I’ve helped others learn how to ski and the experience is similar each time – frustration, awkwardness, and sometimes tears before they finally start to get it. This young man had all of the above and then some. When I could finally see that he did not want to go down the hill, but across it or even back up it, I said “everything I’m trying to help you learn will only work if we point the skiis down the hill.” His response was what has stuck in my head for the weeks since. He said “but there’s nothing down there to stop me!”

He had a point. Although I wanted to say “no, there’s that guy and that pole and that tree and those cars”, at that moment, he wouldn’t have laughed.

How often do we do this to ourselves when we are trying to accomplish something, but we’re afraid of actually succeeding? He had a pretty real fear. He didn’t want to get hurt, but that fear was keeping him from actually succeeding. The good news for this young man is that later on he figured it out, overcame the fear and didn’t want to stop when it was time to go home.

Don’t be afraid to take some spills on your way to success. Anyone that succeeds at anything has to.

You aren’t meant to be a failure

Part of life is messing up, failing, and being disappointed something didn’t go the way you hoped. How’s that for a chipper thought? But going through those things doesn’t mean you are a failure. That’s up to you. Failure is an attitude. So is success.

It’s been said that successful people fail more than others, but they succeed because they keep trying. I’ve seen that happen. I’ve seen people be at low points in their life, whether it be financially, spiritually, socially, or all of the above. A number of things get them through, but the common denominator is they keep moving. They keep trying. They learn from mistakes and avoid them in the future. We all make mistakes and we need to get over the thought that making a mistake is what bad people do. Making mistakes is what all people do. What matters is how you recover from those mistakes.

To get through the next mistake, think on the following:

1. What can I do to make up for it?
2. What can I do to turn it into a learning experience?
3. What can I do so it doesn’t happen again?
4. What can I do to put a smile back on my face?
5. What can I do to succeed next time?

You’ve got to be able to swallow some pride to face these questions, but they will help get you on track again. Remember that failure is an attitude and so is success.