As I’ve worked with numerous people over the years and learned about their frustrations and successes, there’s one thing that has emerged as the difference maker between frustration and success: A plan.
As simple as that sounds, a plan brings focus, hope, and most times, positive results. I personally have been at a point when I was frustrated and couldn’t see why things weren’t going differently for me. I almost had a sense of entitlement, like “I’m a talented guy. Why doesn’t someone just give me what I want?” The light went on when I realized I had no plan for what I really wanted.
When I finally realized I needed a plan, I did some homework on what I wanted and built one. The result has been an awesome experience. Although there were days when that frustration would try to creep back on me, I simply reminded myself of my plan. That reminder would set me back on course.
Can plans fail? Sometimes. But if you have a plan, and plan some flexibility into it, your failures will usually be minimal.
If you want to trade frustration for success, start making a plan!
So many times we get frustrated about things we can’t control. We spend even more time stewing about them, even though there’s absolutely nothing we can do about them. Although this is common among all of us, it’s amazing what happens when you replace those stewing moments with thoughts of what you CAN control. Now THAT is using your time wisely!
We can’t control others choices, their attitudes, or the weather, to name a few. But we CAN control our own choices, our own attitudes, and how we react to the weather. Are we going to make choices that will lead to better things, have attitudes that are positive and uplift us, and roll with whatever weather comes our way? I hope so, because that’s really the only way we will positively progress in our lives.
If you want to be happier and more successful, take control of what you CAN control!
Succeeding at anything requires you to take some hits, get knocked down, or go through some adversity. Sometimes that adversity is just good, old-fashioned work. This is the hard truth about making yourself better or accomplishing a goal.
Some see falling down or taking a proverbial hit as something bad. It’s really not. Sure, it’s humbling, but in some ways it’s a sign that you’re taking the necessary steps at getting better or getting closer to reaching your goal.
Remember when you take the hits that it’s OK to fall down, just don’t stay down too long. Sometimes when someone gets hit, they stay down. They feel the pain of the hit and decide it was too embarassing or too painful to get up and keep going. It takes something deeper inside to get up and keep going, and there’s some of that in all of us! It’s the will to get up and keep going. It’s the determination to see your efforts through. It’s the desire that leads to action.
So next time you get knocked down, it’s OK. Don’t stay down too long because you’re probably on your way to succeeding.
The other day after getting off the phone with someone who wanted to do nothing but complain, I was reminded of something we’ve all realized from these types of encounters. It saps anything fun or enjoyable out of you for a little while. It’s a downer, especially when the complaining is not constructive. I get the idea that we sometimes need to vent. That feels good and can be healthy. But without mentally moving on, you’re drained. I call it the “complain drain”.
On the opposite end of the spectrum there are people with the “positive pulse”. These are the people that build up, help out, and find solutions to problems in order to help those around them better their situations. When you feel that positive pulse from these people it’s invigorating – the complete opposite feeling that comes from the “complain drain”.
I’ve seen it time and again and have observed that you will get more out of life and find more success when you have the “positive pulse”.
I’ve met with a number of people lately that are frustrated with the way their careers are heading. They’re frustrated with not getting promoted, or what they have to do every day at work, or why someone else is getting a better job instead of them.
One of my friends I spoke with was particularly frustrated, feeling any effort he’d given in his job wasn’t recognized and, therefore, didn’t lead to any recent promotion.
When I asked him what he really wanted to do for work, he didn’t know. He didn’t know exactly where he wanted to get to. Without that focus, he was just frustrated because everyone else seemED to be moving ahead.
I’ve recently gained more focus in different avenues of my life and, although I haven’t reached some of those goals yet, I actually know what I want to get to and that focus has helped me remove a lot of frustration. Once there’s a focus, you can be comfortable with yourself and your goals, because you know what you ultimately want to achieve.