Take control of what you CAN control!

So many times we get frustrated about things we can’t control. We spend even more time stewing about them, even though there’s absolutely nothing we can do about them. Although this is common among all of us, it’s amazing what happens when you replace those stewing moments with thoughts of what you CAN control. Now THAT is using your time wisely!

We can’t control others choices, their attitudes, or the weather, to name a few. But we CAN control our own choices, our own attitudes, and how we react to the weather. Are we going to make choices that will lead to better things, have attitudes that are positive and uplift us, and roll with whatever weather comes our way? I hope so, because that’s really the only way we will positively progress in our lives.

If you want to be happier and more successful, take control of what you CAN control!

It’s OK to fall down, just don’t stay down too long.

Succeeding at anything requires you to take some hits, get knocked down, or go through some adversity. Sometimes that adversity is just good, old-fashioned work. This is the hard truth about making yourself better or accomplishing a goal.

Some see falling down or taking a proverbial hit as something bad. It’s really not. Sure, it’s humbling, but in some ways it’s a sign that you’re taking the necessary steps at getting better or getting closer to reaching your goal.

Remember when you take the hits that it’s OK to fall down, just don’t stay down too long. Sometimes when someone gets hit, they stay down. They feel the pain of the hit and decide it was too embarassing or too painful to get up and keep going. It takes something deeper inside to get up and keep going, and there’s some of that in all of us! It’s the will to get up and keep going. It’s the determination to see your efforts through. It’s the desire that leads to action.

So next time you get knocked down, it’s OK. Don’t stay down too long because you’re probably on your way to succeeding.

You can make your choices, but you can’t choose the consequences…..so make better choices!

We can make choices, but we can’t choose the consequences. True statement. But how many times have you heard someone (including yourself) complain about a situation but never do anything about it? I hear it all the time and I’ve busted myself more than a few times over the years doing just that.

Life comes down to this: You can make your choices, but you can’t choose the consequences, so make better choices! These choices are anything from who you choose to associate with, what you spend your time on, what you take into your body, how you spend or don’t spend your money, etc. The list is endless. But one thing is for sure. If you don’t like how something is going in your life, you have the power – through your choices – to change it. The results may or may not be immediate, but you can start by making better choices.

As you make better choices you will feel better about yourself and see your life going in a different, better direction!

The reason we can and should be positive.

I dedicate this post to a friend that has been an amazing example through difficult times. His wife’s funeral was yesterday. She passed away after a long battle with cancer and was only 37 years old. How can anyone be positive through this kind of trial? My friend has been about as positive as anyone could. Yes, there have been awful times and will continue to be hard days, but he knows something that Jesus sums up in John 16:33:

“These things I have spoken unto you, that in me you might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.”

What more positive news could there be? My friend knows that even through what is most likely the lowest time in his life, he can turn to Him whose birth we celebrate.

This Christmas season, hold your family close and be grateful for Jesus Christ, for He has made it possible for us to overcome anything.

The Complain Drain vs. the Positive Pulse

The other day after getting off the phone with someone who wanted to do nothing but complain, I was reminded of something we’ve all realized from these types of encounters. It saps anything fun or enjoyable out of you for a little while. It’s a downer, especially when the complaining is not constructive. I get the idea that we sometimes need to vent. That feels good and can be healthy. But without mentally moving on, you’re drained. I call it the “complain drain”.

On the opposite end of the spectrum there are people with the “positive pulse”. These are the people that build up, help out, and find solutions to problems in order to help those around them better their situations. When you feel that positive pulse from these people it’s invigorating – the complete opposite feeling that comes from the “complain drain”.

I’ve seen it time and again and have observed that you will get more out of life and find more success when you have the “positive pulse”.

Most days are great

When we think about how relatively good we have it in life, most days are great. We have the occassional reminder when we hear of a natural disaster ravaging a certain part of the world and we go home to food, clothing, water, and a bed to sleep in. We have the occassional reminder when we watch the news and hear of a crime or murder story and think about the relative safety we usually live in. We have the occassional reminder when we see a neighbor go through a hard time while we live a fairly busy but great life. When you really think about it, reminders of how good we have it are everywhere.

Sure, we will have some tough times on occassion. It’s part of life. Some of those tough times test our endurance and patience. But even during those tough times we can still look around and say “even so, my life is still great”. Some of the people I look up to most looked at the things they had during hard times, not the things they were lacking.

The more you look around at the good things in your life, the more you will see them. And the more you will realize that most days are great.

You aren’t meant to be a failure

Part of life is messing up, failing, and being disappointed something didn’t go the way you hoped. How’s that for a chipper thought? But going through those things doesn’t mean you are a failure. That’s up to you. Failure is an attitude. So is success.

It’s been said that successful people fail more than others, but they succeed because they keep trying. I’ve seen that happen. I’ve seen people be at low points in their life, whether it be financially, spiritually, socially, or all of the above. A number of things get them through, but the common denominator is they keep moving. They keep trying. They learn from mistakes and avoid them in the future. We all make mistakes and we need to get over the thought that making a mistake is what bad people do. Making mistakes is what all people do. What matters is how you recover from those mistakes.

To get through the next mistake, think on the following:

1. What can I do to make up for it?
2. What can I do to turn it into a learning experience?
3. What can I do so it doesn’t happen again?
4. What can I do to put a smile back on my face?
5. What can I do to succeed next time?

You’ve got to be able to swallow some pride to face these questions, but they will help get you on track again. Remember that failure is an attitude and so is success.